A question of respect.

How can you tell when someone values your opinions? Is through affirmation?…Defyance?…Debates? Should it be based on a feeling or simply a knowing? What about that feeling you get in your stomach that naws at you…should you ignore it because  it’s one bad feeling out of many good ones? But how do you really know you are respected? Especially during those times of conflict with another, when it’s one person’s ways against another’s? Does respect vary from situation to situation or is it simply constant? Or…in all of this is it really a question of one’s own insecurities?